Hi my name is Maria and I’m the founder of The Pitrax Theory. If you know me, you will probably say that I am full of positivity, life and the person to go to when you need someone to listen, to talk to, challenge your status quo and find solutions. You will also say I am a social justice warrior, a born traveller, and always have the best restaurants to recommend! Lastly, you will probably say that I am a storyteller, as I always have a story to share and love to talk, A LOT!

 

However, very few know that I have spent many years feeling pain, empty, unworthy and an intense sense of not belonging. I wasted my energy trying to become someone I was not, in an attempt to fit in with the stereotypes society would enforce on us as social norms. I also attempted to fill the void I felt; I changed cities, jobs, houses, partners, even countries, believing that changes in my external environment would offer me a sense of belonging and happiness. Yet every time I would only get a boost to last me a few months to a year. Wherever I would go, whatever I would do, I would always end up exactly where I started.

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I knew this was not sustainable….​Then one day I heard an African proverb:

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“When there is no enemy within, no enemy on the outside can do no harm”​​

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Now read that again! 

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It got me thinking, and I gradually realised that for me to find peace, I needed to go within, reconcile with that enemy (me), accept where I was and work on being at peace. I needed to challenge my thoughts and beliefs, many of which I was completely unconscious of. So, I stepped out of my brain and into my heart, and as I did, things started to unfold; my sense of peace, worthiness and happiness increased, I started to fall in love; in love with me, in love with life and gradually my external environment began to match how I felt inside. I started to learn things, new things, discover myself, accept who I am, but also unlearn so much, let go (and still am letting go) of stereotypes and conditioning that have been fed to us and do not serve us. 

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The Pitrax Theory, is a personal blog for me to share my stories, my journey and experiences, and write about anything and everything my soul feels the need to share. This will include, but of course will not be limited to, personal development hacks, psychology, gender equality and equity, relationships and human interactions.  Some stories will be funny, others will be more serious, but one thing is for sure...all will have a hopeful outlook and provoke thought, provide recommendations, and maybe even influence change of some sort.

 

And as I continue to embark on this journey of life, I invite you to join me to learn and grow together.

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PS: What does Pitrax mean you ask? Well, it was actually my nickname in school, and at the time I hated it. Who would have thought years later I would use it for my own personal blog!